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Valentine’s Day and Holiday Coping – Lexie Wohler

When holidays such as Valentines Day come about, do you find yourself getting down in the dumps? Does the thought of being around a large crowd for Valentine’s Day or any holiday frighten you, or make you anxious?  Does decorating for the holidays stress you out? How about preparing for a family reunion with a dinner? There are some things you can do to make yourself feel better.

You don’t have to always host the holidays at your house. Try to limit having people over for any holiday get together, if having a party makes you anxious.

You don’t have to decorate extravagantly for each holiday either. Only put out the decorations that you have the energy and time to put out. Be sure to pick out some of your favorites so you get to enjoy them.

You can limit the number of people that you invite if you decide to host a holiday dinner party. The less people you invite, the less stress you put on yourself.

Make the dinner menu simple instead of extravagant. If you keep it simple, and make something that you enjoy cooking, it makes it more enjoyable to prepare. If people don’t like what you’re cooking, they will just have to live with it for one day, or they can leave if they don’t like what you’ve prepared. Leave the choice up to them.

If you’re down in the dumps about any holiday, specifically Valentine’s Day, do yourself a favor and treat yourself to a meal that you really enjoy.  Or make your favorite meal. Eat the meal in front of the TV or watch your favorite movie. Have a cup of your favorite wine or whatever drink that you enjoy, whether it’s non-alcoholic or alcoholic. Enjoy yourself instead of dreading the holidays. The holidays don’t have to bring you down. Remember that you are in control of the way you feel.

If you find yourself down in the dumps about not having anyone to spend Valentines Day with, don’t give yourself too hard of a time. Rather enjoy the time that you get to spend by yourself. Think of time alone as precious time with yourself. Enjoy the quiet moments that you get to have. If you learn to enjoy being alone and appreciate the time that you have, then you will learn to cherish the time that you could eventually have in a relationship. Finding love takes time, so don’t rush into anything that you’re not sure of. If it doesn’t feel right, then don’t rush it. Whenever the right person comes along, you’ll know.  

Take each day as it comes. Try to enjoy the holidays. Not everything about the holidays are bad. Just adjust your thinking. Instead of thinking negatively, try thinking positively. It will help you relax more. Take time away from the stress of the holidays to find yourself. Focus on yourself instead of focusing on how stressed you are. Make sure to find things that you enjoy doing that coincide with the holidays, so they can be more enjoyable for you. Don’t put pressure on yourself, just let things happen as they happen.

Remember, it is ok to feel down in the dumps during the holidays, just don’t stay in that place for too long. Don’t let it ruin your day, or your outlook on the holidays. It is ok to feel stressed, but don’t let it take over your thinking. Try your best to enjoy your life, no matter what holiday might be coming up.

Lexie Wohler is a repeat guest blogger with The Unsanity and you can find a few of her pieces scattered throughout my website. ❤

Welcome October!

Hello and good afternoon everyone!

It’s Sunday, and a brisk Sunday here in Olympia, Washington at that! It’s finally starting to look and feel like fall here… trees are changing and everything is dying around us – don’t worry, nature mostly. I have candles burning on the mantle (which I still need to clean off.. oops) and it smells like a bakery in here! This is my new favorite candle that my mom sent me for my birthday 2 weeks ago now. It’s a wood wick, and it crackles as it burns like a nice warm fire place in fall.

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I’m in the midst of rebranding and relaunching my blog here during October. So exciting! It’s going to be more writing on my part but it’s also going to encompass YOU. I have a select few guest bloggers writing for my page, and you’ll see those at least once a week, until (ready for it?) the end of 2018 and potentially into January 2019! Don’t worry, you’ll still get blogs from me in the meantime obviously, but my guests hold a special place in my heart in the relaunching of my blog. I’m going to focus on anything from mental health/anxiety to photography, art, cooking/baking and everything in between. That’s right – a life blog and more.

I’ll also be throwing in some blogging tips like this first one I created for you to follow and possibly help you create better understanding content for not only your current readers, but for new potential readers in the future:

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I can’t wait to get started and share my guests with you!

My first one is coming from Marvelously Miranda – who’s also a fellow WordPress.com blogger! After being diagnosed with an anxiety disorder at the age of 20, Miranda shares 5 things she’s learned since her diagnosis with us. She enjoys advocating for the vulnerable, writing to encourage others, and spending time with her dog Brody. She is also a licensed social worker with 2 years experience in the mental health area.

Look for her post coming this first week in October, and let’s give her a warm welcome as my first guest blogger on my almost ready relaunch!

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