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3 Steps to Overcome Your Setbacks & Move Forward Confidently – Tyese Knight

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Hey everybody! My name is Tyese Knight. I am a mommy of 2 and a blogger at Strong Mom Sad Mom. I am passionate about helping moms with mental illness feel confident, strong, and empowered. I have struggled with anxiety most of my life and postpartum depression after the birth of my 2nd child. I am committed to breaking the stigma of mental illness by sharing my story to help others. Follow my journey on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, & Pinterest!

I have always been an ambitious dreamer. I set big goals and work hard to accomplish them. Sometimes my ideas work beautifully and sometimes I question why I even try!

In the race of life, we are bound to have setbacks, whether minor or major, that cause hiccups on the path to our goals. It can be challenging to rebound from these setbacks. Feelings of self-doubt, anger, guilt, or sadness can hold us back even more. Just because we have these feelings, it doesn’t mean that we should stop working towards our goals. Here are 3 steps to overcome setbacks and move forward confidently.

Step 1: Mourn Your Loss

So you messed up, screwed up, or just had some bad luck. Most people would say, “Don’t be sad about it.” I’m telling you now, go ahead and be sad or mad about it. It is okay not to be okay. We can’t be happy go lucky all the time!

Sometimes we just need to feel what we feel and get it out of our system. We are capable of experiencing a wide range of emotions for a reason. There is something we need to learn from those feelings.

If you need to bury your head under your comforter or veg out in front of the TV for a few days, go ahead and do it. Unpack your sadness and other negative feelings. Just don’t stay in that place permanently!

For the New Year, I made a goal for weight loss. As soon as January 1st hit, I was on it! I made better eating choices, started counting calories, and exercised daily. Unfortunately, after a weigh in at the end of the month, I was disappointed to discover that I did not lose a single pound. I was PISSED.

So I gave up…for a few days. Started eating my feelings and stopped waking up early to exercise. It was a pretty pathetic sight but I needed to be in that place for a while to lick my wounds.

Once you work out your feelings about your setback, you are in a better place to pick up the pieces and move on.

Step 2: Evaluate Your Missteps

This step requires you to figure out what happened to cause the setback. In other words, what could you have done better to prevent this from happening?

That means you need to put on your big girl panties (or big boy underwear) and admit that you may have played a part in your own setback. It might be hard to hear but if you really want your goals to work out, you have to take responsibility for your actions.

Sometimes we have our blinders on and we can’t see the situation from any perspective besides our own. It may be helpful to find a friend or colleague you trust to help you see it from a different point of view.

After my foiled attempt at losing weight, I whined about it on social media. Many of my friends chimed in, not just to give me support, but to give me advice based on their own experience with weight loss. I was able to get a new perspective, learn what I did wrong and gain new ideas for losing weight.

Step 3: Make a Plan to Improve

Now that you have felt all the feelings and discovered what you did wrong, it’s time to get back on track. Don’t wait too long to put your new plan into action. Now that you have some momentum, use it to your advantage.

Here are some questions you need to ask yourself as you prepare a new plan of attack:

  • Does your goal need adjusting?
  • Do you need more time to accomplish your goal?
  • What additional resources would help you?
  • What would you change about your approach this time around?
  • What or who can hold you accountable for your plan?

A final word of inspiration

You can do this! Don’t be anxious about trying again. Think about the courage it took for you to try to accomplish this goal the first time. Don’t let your setbacks hold you back!

I would love to hear how you are overcoming your setbacks and blasting through your goals like a boss! Drop me a line at tyese@strongmomsadmom.com to let me know how you have been inspired!

New Year, Same Old Me

Good afternoon all. 

I know it’s now January 4, but I felt this had to be typed out sooner or later since it is the new year already and I’m late 4 days now.

I have some resolutions I’d like to state. They’re nothing out of the ordinary really. And I probably make the same ones every year and don’t follow them. But this year, since the year has a 5 in it, I’m going to try and stick to them. (I have this thing with 5’s and I think it’s my favorite number, don’t judge me.)

Here we go. 

1. I want to sign up for a gym. I haven’t done anything active in the past few years, and I think I need to do something to help my back. Not just physical therapy like I did, but an actual gym and get in shape more. I can’t run worth crap and my best sport is bowling. Because it doesn’t require alot of activity in a way.. I need to change that. I want to be able to play other things, like hockey maybe or wiffle ball or something like that. I’m actually really good at baseball and would like to play, even if it’s just with friends. But I need to go to the gym in order to work towards that. I’m not talking about getting buff, but I need to stay in shape. Maybe even zumba at home, or yoga to relax or something. Meditation helps, and I recently went to a massage and my god did that feel good. I so needed that for my back. I scheduled another one for 2 weeks because well, it was so damn good. I can’t stay un-active and be a ball in bed all the time. I need to get motivated somehow. I don’t want to lose massive amounts of weight either, maybe 10-15 pounds and stay fit.

2. Writing more. I don’t write enough on here and I have 200 followers finally. It makes me really happy when people read my blog and can stay up to date. I’m going to try and write atleast 2 times a week to start off with. Whether it be long, short or just a Photo of the Day or something like that. I have been neglecting this and I feel bad to those who actually enjoy my writing sometimes. (I know there are a few out there sometimes.) I want to make one post a Photo of The Day and then the other a long blog and wrap up of the week (if anything exciting happens.. but that’s most likely not going to happen at all aha.)

3. Pick up my camera more. I haven’t actually used it in months because I’ve been stressed busy and well just didn’t feel like doing anything. I’m more active in the summer, and I feel like a bear hibernating in the winter and just sitting at the computer. I really need to get out more and capture the winter beauty that’s out there sometimes. I see things and I just want to capture them, but I’m not one to carry my camera with me everywhere I go. I want to… but it’s too big and used for professional use mostly. Not that I’m a professional really but there are things I’m good at and well that’s one of them. I’m proud of my skill for the camera, but I wish I could put it to work.

4. Get my artwork into a gallery. Photography mostly, since that’s what I usually do. But, I have yet to get my art into a gallery here because there are more established photographers in the area. And that’s a real heartbreaker to me. I’ve been doing photography for how long? And I have yet to be in a gallery except at my community college? Something’s not right here. This year, my goal is to be in one of the galleries in Scranton or Arts On The Square, or something of the like. I need to be more active in the art community here. There are people here that are active… and they’re not that great. If they can be in it, why can’t I?

That’s really mostly it right now. There might be a few others I come up with along the way but right now I think those are the 4 I really need to focus on. It’s been too long since I completed something for myself and I’m tired of being lazy.

January 4, 1958: New Year four days gone, along with resolutions…
—  The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath
Cheers,
||KoralDawn||
xoxox